I will admit I stay on social media quite frequently, however I mostly stay on it so I can stay in the loop about what’s going on with our youth and the world I live in. One day I stumbled across a few post with a random group of friends with the hashtag “SquadGoals.”Well it got me to wondering what are squad goals? So first I went to the worlds version and per Urban Dictionary it is an inspirational term for what you’d like your group of friends to be or accomplish. After I read their definition it made me wonder what does the bible say about “Squad Goals”. As I started to search, I remembered a scripture I heard in church a couple of weeks. It was from the book of Romans 12:14-16 and Gods Word says; “Laugh with your happy friends when they’re happy; share tears when they’re down. Get along with each other; don’t be stuck-up. Make friends with nobodies; don’t be the great somebody.” After I re-read the scripture I started to think about what my past and present “Squad Goals” consisted of.
When I was in the world I had all types of friends; some would only come around when it benefitted them, others only showed up when it was time to turn up (or as the millennials would say get LIT), some would only be around during the good times, and a small few where there through it all. As I thought about my past friendships I can honestly say I never really thought about how they would change or if they would stat the same as we grew up, I just wanted them to like me. I was so consumed with picking friends that would always celebrate me I never considered what type of friend they would be when the partying was over and the benefits came to an end. So as I started to change my life, my career, and my relationships my “Squad” changed too. I noticed that our conversations were different, invites to events were sporadic, and the things we had in common where not the same anymore.
I struggled with the fact that my friendships where changing. The more I changed the more distance I felt (some distance from them and some from me). I felt like they didn’t want to be around the woman I was becoming. In my eyes I wasn’t the fun girl or the yes girl that they were use top. I was becoming a business woman, I was furthering my education, and building a relationship with God. I was going to church more and to the clubs & parties less. As I was changing so was my relationships and I started to realize that some people can only celebrate and support you when you are doing what you always do; which is being stagnant.
So once I decided to live a Christian life, being obedient to what His Will was for me, I began to pray that God give me like minded friends. I started to ask God for the kind of friends that would celebrate each other, not flee when one was excelling more than the other, love to talk about the Word of God, and still enjoyed living life. The more I prayed and stayed in relationship with God, He started revising my “SquadGoals.” I began to realize that friendships should never be onside. Friendships are about celebrating each other even if you don’t have something to celebrate, its about crying with your friend even if you are having a bad day, and its even about loving on one another even if they don’t love you back.
So I pose this question;what are your “Squad Goals?” Does your “Squad” change on you when your life and circumstances change? Or are you looking for a “Squad” that will celebrate you, pray for you, and give you a tissue when your sad? Whatever your “Squad Goals” are make sure they line up with the Word of God. Gods Words says we are to love one another like we love ourselves (Matthew 22:39 GNBDC). So I challenge you today to reevaluate your “SquadGoals”. Remember God never intended for us to do life alone (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 GNBDC). We are supposed to be there to pick each other up in the good and the bad.